I’ve struggled with miscarriages, infertility and breast cancer. Each trauma isolated me from others who couldn’t possibly understand my experience. The pain of cancer’s isolation was the worst. In my latest article at CURE, I share my search for someone to talk to:
Part of the healing process is sharing with other people who care. Jerry Cantrell
The lead up to my mastectomy was a time of crushing anxiety. But, never once in those six and a half months, did I find anyone I could talk to about what it really felt like to have cancer.
It’s not that I didn’t try. I looked to friends and family, but backed off when guilt at causing them pain collided with my intense desire to protect them from that pain. And, in truth, there was just too much I couldn’t explain and they couldn’t understand.
Of course, they kept trying to support me emotionally and I’ll always be grateful they did, but there was only so much they could do.
At one point, I reached out to the only other person I knew who had cancer. She was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer and her drug treatment caused permanent, disabling side-effects.
We didn’t know each other well, but she shared her struggle with being sick and “feeling like an old lady” in her forties. She grieved the job her disability forced her to quit. As a wife and mother, she wrestled with guilt and anxiety as cancer wreaked havoc on her family.
Read more at CURE and learn how the Cancer Hope Network has given me the opportunity to express my gratitude for those who heard me, by being the one who listens.
Read more at CURE